Mar 22, 2012

Ego


A man without his ego is nothing.
A man who does not possess ego is as good as dead.
Ego, defines our thoughts, our actions and the very purpose of our existence.

Yet, ego is one of the most misunderstood concept in the society. The masses who dictate the norms of the society despises ego; yet they fail to evade the plain truth about its omnipresence.

From the saint of saints, to the thief of thieves, every human who lives with the passion of life possesses ego to a great extent.

Dictionary defines ego as a person’s sense of their own value. If I; don’t have a strong sense of my own values, then can I ever do justice to myself or to the different roles I have to play in this lifetime? Role conflict would arise, if I live sans ego.

As a daughter, my ego tells me to do my parents proud. As a sister, my ego tells me to be supportive. As a friend, my ego tells me to be loyal. As a wife, my ego tells me to be affectionate. As a mother, my ego tells me to protective. As an individual, my ego tells me to follow my passion for life.

Without my ego, my roles would get blurred and I would end up becoming a shadow of my existence.

But, easier said than lived – ego is not an easy thing to nurture. Because, the society we live in, don’t understand a dime about what ego is? For them a Mother Teresa is selfless but a Hitler is egoistic. If Mother Teresa didn’t have the ego to prove her selflessness, then she wouldn’t have become the charisma that she became. This is the irony of ego. Ego is associated only with negative action and not with positive results.

I pity those people, who claim to live without any ego. Either, they lack the strength to defend their values or they fear the segregation from masses. After all, man is a social animal and its basic instinct is to fit in.

Herd mentality is for the weak hearted. Go, acknowledge your ego. Assured, it will feel good.

Feb 23, 2012

My beloved......


One fine morning you walked into my life. At first, I was afraid to talk to you. I was apprehensive to utter even a word. To top it all, everyone had a weird opinion about you. Some said you are bad, the kind of person who will infect me with bad beliefs. Some said you are ok, as long as I know my limits (whatever that means). Some asked me, why bother to get close with such a doubtful person? I was just out of teens – confused and irrational. Hence, I was ready to experiment with my life.

Call it hormonal effect. The fatal attraction had already happened. Slowly, I started trusting you. I still thank my stars for that eventful first meeting. I could feel my life changing for better. You opened a whole new world for me – a world where I was the centre of universe. Although our affair was taking a toll on my misery pocket money, I didn’t mind. All that mattered was you and through you, our life…

Our relation matured to the next level and you turned my confidant. I looked up to you for advice, without your approval I could do nothing. And then it happened….. You introduced me to your family. Weird as they would call themselves and together, we made a nice gang. But with time, I realized I was getting addicted to each one of you. You and family could make me laugh, make me cry, make me sad, make me ecstatic – in short, you and your family made me a stupid puppet.  

At first, I didn’t realise what was happening? My life was thrown off balance. Money was running negative, in trying to keep up with your family' lavish lifestyle. Without you and your family, I was lost; yet your family was instrumental in destroying the peace of my life. I don’t blame you. I shouldn’t have trusted your family, the way I trusted you. But then… Trusting you was the root cause – I acknowledged that fact, a bit late.

And then, one day, I took that fatal call. With the very same intensity, in which I had come to you as a teen, I walked out of you at the prime of my adulthood.

Enough is enough…

I still love you and would always. But I wanted your family to know, that they no longer mean anything to me. Everything has a threshold, a point beyond which returning to original shape is impossible. I had long crossed my threshold. There is only numbness in this heart towards you and your entire group.

Hmmmm….

It has been 7 months since we severed intimacy. In between we did meet each other and rarely your family.

Now, I have become wiser. I can live peacefully without you my beloved “Internet”. Your family Gmail, facebook, twitter and all those social networks, no longer tortures me with the urge to check photos, updates or god knows what. I no longer get sleepless nights in either of your name.

And above everything, I know the truth – the real world is far better, much more happening and pleasant than the virtual world you provide. Your family is nothing, but a mode of entertainment my beloved Internet. Hope I have shown each one of you, your true 'status'!